Archive of ‘Stillbirth’ category

The Truth About Grieving For Your Child

Updated for my Son’s 15th Birthday It’s hard to tell the truth about grieving for your child, especially as the years pile up. The people around you love you and they want you to feel better – after a while, particularly those who have never experienced anything similar, start expecting you to feel better. The […] Read more…

When You Have Nothing To Celebrate

On September 18th my son, Louis, would be 14 years old – but he’s not, he was stillborn at 41 weeks all those years ago, What do you do with a day like that. A birthday where there is nothing to celebrate. No memories, no upside, no cake, no presents, no joy. There are many […] Read more…

Elective Cesarean After Expereincing A Stillbirth

I feel like I should kick off with some sort of disclaimer about how you don’t have to have a cesarean after experiencing a stillbirth. You may not want a cesarean – indeed, I personally know someone who delivered her second baby naturally following the stillbirth of her first baby, so I’m totally on board that it […] Read more…

The Reality Behind ‘Hollyoaks’ Stillbirth Storyline

This post first appeared on Huffington Post Uk Parents. My eyes naturally gravitate to stories about Stillbirth. I can’t help it, I realise that is a little macabre, but it’s my unfortunate reality. I’m drawn to read new information and seek out differing perspectives. So it was with an interested curiosity that I read how, […] Read more…

I Sent My Son To Heaven

Remembering the day I sent my son to Heaven. I should really start by putting my cards on the table – I’m not religious. You’re just going to have to bear with me on this one. Growing up, The Children’s Illustrated Bible was my favourite bedtime story – but that’s all it ever was to […] Read more…

Motherhood And The Myth Of Perfection

If I were ever to openly describe myself as a perfectionist I think most of my friends and family would fall about laughing. Not in a nasty way – it would actually be a fairly reasonable response. I don’t know how to iron properly and I have no inclination to improve – I like my […] Read more…

The Perfect Baby Number.

What is the perfect baby number? It turns out I’m not sure, and that is coming from someone who thought they had it all figured out. I was never a baby person, as a child I never played with dolls, and as a teenager I would have told you that I was never having children – […] Read more…

Stillbirth – The Story Always Rumbles On.

 I imagine that it is true for most life events good or bad that they change you, shape you and ultimately become part of you. If I were ever to forget about the impact Stillbirth has had on my life, the universe has a knack of bringing it to the fore again, a gentle nudge in the […] Read more…

Babyloss Awareness Week 2014

I am of course very supportive of and grateful for initiatives, such as Babyloss Awareness Week 2014. I want people to talk about the causes of Stillbirth (along with other pre and ante natal causes of babyloss). However, it is also obviously something I desperately wish I had no affinity with whatsoever. During my first […] Read more…

A thank you to my family

I want to say thank you to my family. My husband and I went to see my son today at the cemetery. Louis would have been 12 last Thursday; his headstone has obviously been there a long time, and as usual, we knew it would need cleaning up, flowers replacing etc. We also had the […] Read more…

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